Why Won’t My Partner Get Tested for STIs?

Being sexually active means loads of good times, but it isn’t all fun and games. In order to responsibly take care of your health, you need to make sure that you and your partner(s) engage in safe practices and get tested for STIs regularly. When a partner refuses to get tested, then, it can be very stressful. Suddenly, you’re left with concerns about your well-being, all while wondering why on earth they won’t just go in for a little test. If this sounds familiar, here’s a quick list of everything you need to know.

Top Reasons Your Partner Won’t Get Tested

Although each individual person will have their reasons for doing (or not doing) things, here are a few common reasons why someone might not want to get tested for STIs:

• They’re afraid – In some situations, your partner may be scared about the possibility of having an STI and are avoiding testing so they don’t have to deal with it. They may be worried about your reaction and any potential consequences. Having an open and vulnerable conversation with your partner may help them to feel more comfortable.
• They don’t have symptoms – If your partner isn’t showing any signs or symptoms of an STI, they may be under the false impression that they don’t need to be tested. Here, you can educate them on the facts and tell them that people can have and transmit STIs, even if they are asymptomatic.
• It’s too much work – Perhaps your partner doesn’t want to be bogged down by one more thing added to their busy schedule. If this is the case, assure them that testing is fast, easy, and painless. You can find a clinic with flexible hours just around the corner.

Testing is Essential for Sexual Health

Whatever your partner’s excuses for not being tested, you should never downplay the importance of the process. It can be easy to give in when you care about someone and long to be intimate, but your health is on the line. Bear in mind that there are many STIs that don’t have symptoms. Just because your partner thinks they are okay doesn’t mean that they are. The only way you can be 100% certain is to take a test.

What Should I Do?

If you’ve talked about the necessity of testing with your partner and they still won’t get tested, it’s in your best interest to abstain from sexual contact. Remember that you don’t have to engage in intercourse to pick up an STI. STIs can be transmitted via oral sex and kissing. And while condoms are great barrier methods for preventing pregnancies and STIs, they don’t offer a 100% guarantee of protection. Your partner may be upset, but you should never feel pressured to compromise your safety and wellness.

It’s high time for you and your partner to get tested for STIs, and we’re here to help. Find the clinic nearest to you today.

Sources

1 UKHSA – Get tested

2 NHS – How soon do STI symptoms appear